The Wishing Tree

'Gung Hei Fat Choi!' she uttered in her best pinyin approximation to wishing you a Happy New Year! Today marks the beginning of The Year of the Rabbit, in Chinese traditions.  I spent a very happy few years as a child living in the Far East, primarily in Singapore, with a briefer excursion to Hong Kong later on.

I have very vivid memories of these days, the warmth, the colours, the fragrances, the food, and especially the festivals, when at Chinese New Year, we would be given little red envelopes known as Lai See dollar or Lucky Money in Cantonese by our 'arma' ( that's my best approximation to the term used to describe the Chinese lady who worked for my parents as a nanny and housekeeper).

We had two that I recall, Qui Ki and Tan ay Lan, who I remember best. A tall elegant slender lady, whose skin was folded like leather on her hands and face, belying her relative youth, I always imagined she was at least 100; she was sage, wise and calm.  We spent a considerable amount of time in her company, often ate with her, eating exactly as she did; local peasant  and regional dishes. I recall dried fish and brown shrimps were great favourites of mine.

We would often visit her at the Kampung she lived in, a shanti village on the edge of the Forest, scrump Lychees and Rambutans in season. We ran wild amongst the exotic foliage, chasing brightly coloured birds, and lizards whose tails would fall off in our hands. The lizards, especially chit-chats that were often found on the walls of my parents Bungalow fascinated me. Villages like this are  not seen in Singapore these days, but still to be found on the Malayan Peninsula, and I often daydream about returning one day, and reliving some of those memories.

Tan worshipped   various deities, mostly Buddist type doctrine, but a mix of cultures, much of it based around ancestor worship, and the belief in the spirit world too, a convenient muddle that fitted in with her world view and faith in Nature.

One memory I cherish is based around Chinese New Year. A story she told of tying prayer ribbons to an ancient Banyan tree in the days of her youth back in China. It was as romantic and sad as the Willow Pattern Story, and many other folk tales  she related to us that seemed to come from that part of the world.

We had a beautiful Frangipani tree at the front of our house, and she would encourage us to tie red ribbons, or small red lanterns to it and make a wish, whilst all around you could hear the unmistakable sound of firecrackers warding off bad spirits and welcoming the New Year.  I knew it as 'The Wishing Tree'.

Such practises are still common, not only in the Far East, for just as people there tie wishes and prayers to sacred trees, we do it here too, and ribbons are attached to venerable ancient Yews, or  historical landmarks such as the Glastonbury Thorn. Some times its practised as  coins hammered into such 'Wishing Trees' - often huge fallen trunks covered in many hundred offerings, such as you can find along the river from Tarr Steps in Somerset; a coin is fixed into the tree, and a wish is made.

Today I tied a red ribbon to my Cherry tree ( Prunus cerifera 'nigra')  encouraged by the nascent flower buds, and the bright blue sky, and made a wish  on this auspicious day too; something I have not done since childhood.

Comments

Karen - An Artist's Garden
Karen - An Artist's Garden 03 February 2011 at 15:29
Zoe - what a delight to have a glimpse of your childhood days in the Far East.
May all your wishes come true
K
xx
Viki
Viki 03 February 2011 at 15:36
Lovely post. Thank you for sharing such special memories. x
Sue
Sue 03 February 2011 at 19:50
Loved this. Very evocative. Visited Hong Kong many years ago now. We had fireworks over the city here last night to celebrate the Chinese New Year (there is quite a large Chinese community in this part of NZ).
Gorgeous post Zoe....I also really hope your wish comes true. Xx
frances
frances 04 February 2011 at 00:58
Zoe, it's grand to see that you are writing these blogs! I read the one about the bee keeping, and have been talking about it to a NYC friend who's got a friend who's also going to be raising bees. Meant to comment sooner. In this new year, I still don't seem to have gotten control of the time!

Have another friend who's now celebrating the lunar new year. It is so interesting to learn more about traditions, and see how many cultures share certain, but not all, practices. I cannot remember if I knew before about your growing up in the east. Hoping we might trade more comments about that.

Meanwhile, may I tell you that more snow is forecast for New York by this weekend. Enough is enough. Still, when I view media coverage from Egypt, our dealing with snowfalls seems very easy.

xo
Esther Montgomery
Esther Montgomery 04 February 2011 at 06:41
I kept changing my thoughts as I read this post.

I began by thinking how lovely the photo is - and that made me warm to the idea of tying ribbons to twigs.

I really enjoyed hearing about your childhood too. It would be good to read more!

Then, when you mentioned wishing wells and the Glastonbury Thorn, I went off the idea. I hadn't seen the Thorn with things tied to it until it was chopped down and put on the news. It looked undignified and sad. Coins in wells remind me of overwhelming tourism rather than true dreams.

Then I came to your wishes - and, of course, I hope your wishes come true!

I suppose it's volume. One red ribbon against a blue, blue sky is one thing. Swamping a living thing is another. Maybe that's the case with wishes too - a few inspire us; if we have too many we get miserable.

Esther
Janet/Plantaliscious
Janet/Plantaliscious 04 February 2011 at 09:43
What a wonderfully evocative post. I hope your wish comes true. Do you leave the ribbon on a year, until it gets really tatty or until it disintegrates? Sorry, not very romantic I know but I just had the thought that what looks beautiful on a sunny winter's day may not look so aesthetic in late summer. I started off thinking "I must do this too" though clearly I have missed the Chinese New Year and anyway I lack the background to give this any integrity. I finished up worrying about tatty ribbon in my silver birch. Sorry...
60 going on 16
60 going on 16 04 February 2011 at 18:19
That's just the very best - and the most uplifting Gung Hei Fat Choi post I've read this year. May your red ribbon work its magic.
60 going on 16
60 going on 16 04 February 2011 at 18:20
Whoops, sorry, pressed the button before checking for typos!
Zoe Lynch
Zoe Lynch 04 February 2011 at 18:21
What typos? *winks*
elizabethm
elizabethm 05 February 2011 at 20:31
What a lovely post. I hadn't realised you had spent time in Singapore. I loved the idea of you quietly eating your shrimp. I too hope your wishes come true.
Mary/Cabernat
Mary/Cabernat 06 February 2011 at 12:52
Hi Zoe
I do so hope that all your wishes come true. I've been reading your posts & love the photos. You are so lucky to have daffodils out. Ours are only just poking through.

mary x